Football is the game for me. I love watching it and look forward to Football season like nobody’s business and especially the Super Bowl!

I began watching football in the 70’s (father got me hooked) and was a Steelers fan for a long while there (Bradshaw, Harris, Greene, Swan). I stopped watching for a few years in the late 90’s but got right back into the swing of things real quick.

What I love about foot is…hmmm, what do I love about football? I really don’t know, I just know I enjoy watching it a great deal and really get in to it. I love the competition, the action, just how the game can change in an instant – just everything. Basketball is not a game I watch at all and baseball is a game to have on for relaxing. Now baseballs games are what I love going to. Football is more for TV for me.

When I began watching football again, I immediately got back to being a Steelers fan until…until Worthlessburger did his little stunt. Now, until that fool is gone, right along with Michael Vick, I will not be a Steelers fan and will not watch an Eagles game. I can watch a Steeler’s game because I love the coach.

But for Super Bowl 2011 – its Green Bay all the way!

I’m a blogger, which means I write and write and write and I write about any and everything, but I do not write to offend. I try to be honest without being rude. I try to give an honest opinion without sounding hypocritical or being a know-it-all. I enjoy writing and sharing my writings with others. My blogs are not law, they are only opinions or my view of things.

I am not a psychologist by any means nor have I studied psychology to the extent that I can say I’m an expert in the subject to which I am writing about. This writing is more from my observations and thoughts through the years.

There’s something to be said for those that over-share their personal business, but more importantly, it leaves the question of WHY share so much personal business to someone who’s virtually a stranger to you. How can you gage how that person will react. How do you know you can trust that person with your personal information.

I have found that people like to share their issues about work or the company as a starting ground and perhaps to see if the person they are speaking to can be trusted. Once they feel they can be trusted then the sharer may move into their personal life and the issues, or supposed issues they are having. Now here’s where it gets tricky.

The spewing about work concerns/issues is common thing done by everyone for we look for support from others and more than likely, advice on how to handle a certain situation. Some take the advice and apply it and thus resolve their issue. Some hear the advice, but do nothing with it and thus continue to complain. Those people are not seeking advice but just like to hear themselves talk and seek sympathy. In turn, this rolls right over into over-sharing of their personal life.

Over sharing of personal information is really a dangerous ground to walk. The information that’s being shared may mark the person as having too many personal problems that could possibly interfere with work or mark them as possibly being unstable. But more importantly it subjects them to office gossip that once the story reaches the fifth person, the possible truth has now turned into a gossip hound’s favorite obsession.

But why do people over-share? Is it for sympathy? Is it a need for attention? Or is it for the drama effect?

For sympathy: Some people like to over-share to get sympathy. They may start out small.
Judy likes to talk about how her father is sick with terminal cancer. Once she feels she has the sympathy of another or many, depending on her target, she may move up the son who died in car crash 10 years ago and just keep moving on up and continue to play the sympathy card over and over again. If she finds the right person(s) her sympathy card may never run out. But will Judy be willing to listen to others? Probably not. Or, she’ll take what they have just said and make it about her.

For attention: Lack of attention as a child leads a person to seek that throughout their lives (not all, but some) or, as child, saw people running to a parent’s aid or a siblings aid when they would speak of bad things happening to them. Perhaps they learned this was the only way they can get people to notice them.

For drama: These are the ones that turn a pebble into a mountain. Everything is a big ordeal from diminutive projects at work to delivering mail to the post office. And its not the project or having to go to the post office that over dramatized, but what happened during the process. The project could be copying files and copier get jammed and its an easy fix. But the way the victim will tell it, the paper jam took one hour to clear and caused numerous paper cuts to the hand in which 15 stitches were needed. The trip to the post office could be a car pulled in front of the person and then broke down, thus blocking traffic while running of the bulls took place on top of their (the victim’s) car.

We are all guilty of over-sharing at one time or another. We all at some point in our lives wanted sympathy, attention or a little drama, but knowing when to draw the line is a problem for some and thus can get a label put on them that they may not want. Seeking sympathy is not the same has being labeled a “sympathy seeker”. Seeking attention is not the same as “attention getter” and seeking drama is definitely not the same as being labeled a “drama queen”.

But being labeled something is the last thing on the over-share’s mind. Being remembered as the person who husband cheats on them, or who has a mother in prison for prostitution or who’s father abused them or is an alcoholic is not what they are concerned about having hanging over their heads.

The over-sharing spoken about above was of the verbal kind. But what about the written kind – such Facebook, Myspace (yeah, I said Myspace), Twitter, to name a few.

Myspace used to be the place to speak, vent, cry, shout, what-have-you, but then came along Facebook and Twitter.

Twitter allows people to give a short over-share – its so short you don’t feel like people are over sharing there, but, turn on to Facebook Lane and you’ll find a mansion of over-sharers.

The written over-sharer shares the same names as the verbal over-sharer – you still have the sympathy getter, the attention getter and the drama queens and some kings. But what sets Facebook apart from the verbal is its there forever and by time you realize that probably you shouldn’t have posted it, 20 people have read it.

Facebook has become a bit of a venting ground as well. You are able to talk to a number of friends at once, but what about the friends of those friends and the friends of those friends and so on. Kinda like that Albertson’s commercials that was on a while back, “I told two friends and they told two friends and they told two friends and so on and so on.” People think they have a handle on things when they set their privacy setting or block certain people that are on their friend’s list from seeing their post (yeah you can do that – kinda of a safe way of deleting someone without really deleting them and not hurting their feelings or causing problems). But people have to remember it’s the Internet and what happens in Vegas, doesn’t stay in Vegas.

Think before you over-share verbally or written. Don’t start over-sharing after a few days of meeting someone and don’t get offended if you’ve shared too much with someone and all of sudden they are avoiding eye contact with you in the hallway or have your posts hidden on Facebook or removed you from their Twitter list.

Keep the over-sharing to a few close friends and only share what you don’t mind getting around or back to the person you have just vented about.

I hadn’t plan on watching the Oscars tonight for for the past few years they have been boring and I leave feeling that I just wasted three to fours of my time, but tonight I didn’t come away with that feeling.

I had doubts about the two hosts (Steve Martin and Alec Baldwin)..not the individuals, but them being together. My doubts were soon dissipated and I let my mind open and didn’t expect boredom but rather a wonderful show that at the end, I would clap along the others (inside the boob tube) and walk away knowing that my three to fours hours were not wasted but enlightened.

As with every Oscar show I learn of movies I have never heard of and want to watch but must wait for the DVD. Then there are movies that I’ve heard too much of and don’t care to see. Tonight was different. I learned of movies I never have heard of an must wait for the DVD and movies I’ve heard too much off and want to see – Avatar being one of them. I had no interest in the beginning to seeing this movie because of the hype that came with it, but its the story that intrigues me.

I had seen the Hurt Locker and didn’t care for it. A friend of mine asked me to watch it for her let her know what took place the last 30 minutes of the film for the rental on her iPod was going to end while she was at work. I did look at the film and became extremely bored with the film. So bored that I went on IMDB in hopes of finding a spoiler to tell my friend so I wouldn’t have to endure any more pain of this film. I didn’t get much from that site, but I did find another site that gave me exactly what I was looking for. From that site I was able to convey to my friend the last 30 minutes of the film and she was satisfied and I was allowed to break the chains of this movie and move on to better things. But my displeasing of the film did not take away support I had for Kathryn Bigelow as a director and when she won for best director and best movie I was very happy for her. I give credit where credit is due and she definitely deserves the win.

I was very pleased to see Monique win best supporting actress for her to go from cracking jokes on stage to playing a despicable mother in Precious deserves at least a mention, but it got her an Oscar.

My main love is Foreign Language Films and Documentaries. I am watching so many foreign language films lately that American films do not appeal to me much anymore. Yes, I have a collection of movies I enjoy to watch over and over, but to watch new American made movies do not appeal to me. They will be entertainment, while my foreign language films will be my enlightenment and my journey. I will going onIMDB to learn of the foreign films that were up for an award and keep a list so when come out on DVD I will be on Netflix seeking them out. The same goes for the documentaries.

The jokes between Martin and Baldwin were great. The way the took on some of the audience members was very tactful and didn’t upset anyone. No straight shot insults were given or sucker punches thrown by either host.

The speeches were a bit long, but aren’t all speeches. You’re up there before your peers, excited and happy that your mouth seems to lose all sense of time and you talk forever. The next thing you know the music is playing and your mike has been cut off. What do you do…well you keep talking off course until the man from Showtime at the Apollo pulls you off stage with is long cane. But its all gravy.

The evening flowed very smoothly with just one hiccup that I didn’t get, but that’s OK. It probably wasn’t there for me to get and I’m cool with that.

My two least favorite people were there in the end, Streisand (Barbara) and Hanks (Tom). Luckily they weren’t there presenting together. I can stand Hanks more than I can Streisand. It was all gravy with them as well. They did their thing and left..arriveËĄderci.

I can actually tip my hat to the Academy and say well done ladies and gentlemen, well done.

How We Operate by Gomez

Posted: 2010/01/07 in Song

Calm down
And get straight
It’s not our eyes
It’s how we operate

You’re true
You are
I’d apologize but it won’t go very far

Please come here
Come right on over
And when we collide we’ll see what gets left over

A little joy
A little sorrow
And a little pride so we won’t have to borrow
Wherever you lead, I’ll follow

Turn me inside out and upside down
And try to see things my way
Turn a new page, tear the old one out
And I’ll try to see things your way

Please come here
Please come on over
There is no line that you can’t step right over
Without you well I’m left hollow
So can we decide to try a little joy tomorrow
‘Cos baby tonight I’ll follow

Turn me inside out and upside down
And try to see things my way
Turn a new page, tear the old one out
And I’ll try to see things your way

The way that we’ve been speaking now
I swear that we’d be friends, I swear
‘Cos all these little deals go down with
Little consequences, we share, we share

Turn me inside out and upside down
And try to see things my way
Turn a new page, tear the old one out
And I’ll try to see things your way

And I’m gonna love you anyway
Try to see things your way
Try to see things your way
Try to see things your way

I was going to write a review of the movie but I can’t. It is absolutely impossible to put into words on how this movie made me feel. For those that have seen the movie know what I am talking about. For those who have yet to see it, you will know how I feel and for those that have no intentions of seeing it, YOU ARE MISSING OUT!

You do not have to be a Michael Jackson fan to want to see the movie because there are those that don’t/didn’t care for Michael the person, but love/loved Michael the entertainer. I loved Michael the man and then Michael the entertainer. But more than getting an insight into the rehearsals that went on before his concerts, this movie will have you remembering all the great songs he produced and the fascinating moves that made Michael Michael. After this movie, I became a fan of Michael the entertainer. I never paid much to his songs, save for a few on Blood On The Dance Floor. Outside of the mentioned album, I really, really love the song Will You Be There.

I do have to add this because I think about the day Michael died and how some people on Facebook were saying they were glad the molester is dead and other horrible things. When Michael was first accused of molestation back in the mid-90’s I never believed it. Some wonder that if he’s innocent why not go to court instead of doing an out-of-court settlement. If anyone knows the justice system, it can be geared towards the criminals. The victims are dragged through the mud and made to seem to be the criminal instead. Michael Jackson being who is he, the trial would have been a circus and he would have been dragged through the mud like nobody’s business. I believe they would have brought up things that have nothing to do with the fabricated charges just because. Then in early 2000, he again accused of molestation and again, I didn’t believe it.

I believe like all of us, Michael had his quirkiness, but all in all he was a good guy and loved people. He seemed to have a big heart and there were those that took advantage of it and it was a sad thing for Michael, but he continued to be who he was, a kind, loving person who enjoyed giving what he could to others.

My last thought. This movie showed that Michael put on shows for the fans and not for the money. He made sure fans felt the music, felt the spirit and felt the love he was giving them.

I really don’t think Michael realized what a genius he was!

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