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I’m a blogger, which means I write and write and write and I write about any and everything, but I do not write to offend. I try to be honest without being rude. I try to give an honest opinion without sounding hypocritical or being a know-it-all. I enjoy writing and sharing my writings with others. My blogs are not law, they are only opinions or my view of things.

I am not a psychologist by any means nor have I studied psychology to the extent that I can say I’m an expert in the subject to which I am writing about. This writing is more from my observations and thoughts through the years.

There’s something to be said for those that over-share their personal business, but more importantly, it leaves the question of WHY share so much personal business to someone who’s virtually a stranger to you. How can you gage how that person will react. How do you know you can trust that person with your personal information.

I have found that people like to share their issues about work or the company as a starting ground and perhaps to see if the person they are speaking to can be trusted. Once they feel they can be trusted then the sharer may move into their personal life and the issues, or supposed issues they are having. Now here’s where it gets tricky.

The spewing about work concerns/issues is common thing done by everyone for we look for support from others and more than likely, advice on how to handle a certain situation. Some take the advice and apply it and thus resolve their issue. Some hear the advice, but do nothing with it and thus continue to complain. Those people are not seeking advice but just like to hear themselves talk and seek sympathy. In turn, this rolls right over into over-sharing of their personal life.

Over sharing of personal information is really a dangerous ground to walk. The information that’s being shared may mark the person as having too many personal problems that could possibly interfere with work or mark them as possibly being unstable. But more importantly it subjects them to office gossip that once the story reaches the fifth person, the possible truth has now turned into a gossip hound’s favorite obsession.

But why do people over-share? Is it for sympathy? Is it a need for attention? Or is it for the drama effect?

For sympathy: Some people like to over-share to get sympathy. They may start out small.
Judy likes to talk about how her father is sick with terminal cancer. Once she feels she has the sympathy of another or many, depending on her target, she may move up the son who died in car crash 10 years ago and just keep moving on up and continue to play the sympathy card over and over again. If she finds the right person(s) her sympathy card may never run out. But will Judy be willing to listen to others? Probably not. Or, she’ll take what they have just said and make it about her.

For attention: Lack of attention as a child leads a person to seek that throughout their lives (not all, but some) or, as child, saw people running to a parent’s aid or a siblings aid when they would speak of bad things happening to them. Perhaps they learned this was the only way they can get people to notice them.

For drama: These are the ones that turn a pebble into a mountain. Everything is a big ordeal from diminutive projects at work to delivering mail to the post office. And its not the project or having to go to the post office that over dramatized, but what happened during the process. The project could be copying files and copier get jammed and its an easy fix. But the way the victim will tell it, the paper jam took one hour to clear and caused numerous paper cuts to the hand in which 15 stitches were needed. The trip to the post office could be a car pulled in front of the person and then broke down, thus blocking traffic while running of the bulls took place on top of their (the victim’s) car.

We are all guilty of over-sharing at one time or another. We all at some point in our lives wanted sympathy, attention or a little drama, but knowing when to draw the line is a problem for some and thus can get a label put on them that they may not want. Seeking sympathy is not the same has being labeled a “sympathy seeker”. Seeking attention is not the same as “attention getter” and seeking drama is definitely not the same as being labeled a “drama queen”.

But being labeled something is the last thing on the over-share’s mind. Being remembered as the person who husband cheats on them, or who has a mother in prison for prostitution or who’s father abused them or is an alcoholic is not what they are concerned about having hanging over their heads.

The over-sharing spoken about above was of the verbal kind. But what about the written kind – such Facebook, Myspace (yeah, I said Myspace), Twitter, to name a few.

Myspace used to be the place to speak, vent, cry, shout, what-have-you, but then came along Facebook and Twitter.

Twitter allows people to give a short over-share – its so short you don’t feel like people are over sharing there, but, turn on to Facebook Lane and you’ll find a mansion of over-sharers.

The written over-sharer shares the same names as the verbal over-sharer – you still have the sympathy getter, the attention getter and the drama queens and some kings. But what sets Facebook apart from the verbal is its there forever and by time you realize that probably you shouldn’t have posted it, 20 people have read it.

Facebook has become a bit of a venting ground as well. You are able to talk to a number of friends at once, but what about the friends of those friends and the friends of those friends and so on. Kinda like that Albertson’s commercials that was on a while back, “I told two friends and they told two friends and they told two friends and so on and so on.” People think they have a handle on things when they set their privacy setting or block certain people that are on their friend’s list from seeing their post (yeah you can do that – kinda of a safe way of deleting someone without really deleting them and not hurting their feelings or causing problems). But people have to remember it’s the Internet and what happens in Vegas, doesn’t stay in Vegas.

Think before you over-share verbally or written. Don’t start over-sharing after a few days of meeting someone and don’t get offended if you’ve shared too much with someone and all of sudden they are avoiding eye contact with you in the hallway or have your posts hidden on Facebook or removed you from their Twitter list.

Keep the over-sharing to a few close friends and only share what you don’t mind getting around or back to the person you have just vented about.

Police nab suspect in anchor’s death, seek answers

By TOM PARSONS – 1 hour ago

LITTLE ROCK, Ark. (AP) — Police for weeks had neither a suspect nor a motive in the beating death of a popular television anchorwoman. A suspect is now in custody, but many questions remain unanswered.

Officers arrested Curtis Lavelle Vance, 28, at a home in Little Rock on Wednesday night — tipped to his location after police held a late-evening news conference to reveal him as their suspect, said Lt. Terry Hastings, a police spokesman.

Vance was charged with capital murder in the death of Anne Pressly. The 26-year-old anchorwoman, who had a small part in the President George W. Bush biopic “W,” died Oct. 25 — five days after being severely beaten in what police described as a random attack at her home.

Investigators interviewed Vance late Wednesday and early Thursday morning, Hastings said.

Vance lived in Marianna, in eastern Arkansas, but had numerous contacts in central Arkansas, Police Chief Stuart Thomas said. He named Vance as the suspect earlier Wednesday night and said Vance was traveling with a woman, three kids, a pistol and “lots of extra ammunition.”

Within an hour of the news conference’s end, officers were at a home south of downtown. Vance apparently was not armed when arrested, Hastings said early Thursday.

Police did not disclose what led them to suspect Vance. Thomas said only that the capital murder charge was based on “a very, very solid case due to solid detective work.”

Hastings said previously that DNA and other evidence from the scene gave police a portrait of the person they were looking for, though they did not have a name until this month.

Hastings said Thursday that police would not disclose how they obtained DNA to match to a possible suspect, adding “We’re going to be very tightlipped on this case, pretrial.”

One of Pressly’s credit cards was used at a gas station after the beating, but Hastings said security camera footage didn’t provide a good look at the person using it.

Pressly lived alone in the city’s Pulaski Heights section, a mix of mansions and bungalows near a country club. Her mother, visiting from out of town at the time of the attack but not staying at her daughter’s home, found Pressly on Oct. 20, a half-hour before the anchorwoman was due on KATV’s “Daybreak” program. The mother checked on her daughter after she didn’t answer her daily wake-up call.

The anchorwoman had been beaten severely on the head and upper torso. She never regained consciousness.

Pressly was a native of Greenville, S.C., and moved with her family to Little Rock while she was in high school. She was a graduate of Rhodes College in Memphis, Tenn., which has discussed establishing a scholarship to honor her.

In the Oliver Stone movie “W” — the subject of a news story she covered as the film was being shot in Shreveport, La. — Pressly appeared briefly as a conservative commentator who speaks favorably of Bush’s “Mission Accomplished” event on an aircraft carrier after the start of the Iraq war.

Hastings said he did not know if Vance had an attorney. He said a public defender would likely be appointed to the case.

Vance was being held Thursday at the Pulaski County Jail, awaiting a Friday morning arraignment.(www.google.com)

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Opinion:  Something tells me Vance didn’t do it.  Knowing Ark (look up the West Memphis Three www.wm3.org), they probably got alot of pressure to solve this case and so they did…I might be wrong, but my  gut feeling tells me he didn’t do it.  I will recant when I am proven wrong….Nikki Carlyle

Posted at 3:11pm PST

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Update 6:06pm PST 1 Dec 2008 – Ok, as mentioned when I am proven wrong about the bastard they arrested I would be back and here I am.  This F*CKER did it and I hope he gets in prision what he did to Anne and the school teacher he raped in April of last year.  What took the police so long to nab his sorry behind when he raped the teacher?  I wish they could send his a** to Corcoran or Riker’s Island.  I don’t know anything about Arkansas, but I hope they send him to a prison that does not play.

Anne Pressly: 1982 – 2008

Posted: 2008/10/26 in life

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I have to say this has upset me quite a bit and I don’t know why.  I think its because I don’t feel this was a radoms act.  I believe the person had some type of vengeance against her to beat her about the head and neck area and they only took her purse.

And then the bastard uses her credit somewhere where people don’t check for ID’s.  Most people don’t check for ID’s here in California as well.

When did we as a nation become so uncaring and unassuming.  There was a time when when you used a credit card, the person behind the counter checked for ID.  Now, all you have to do is swipe your card and that’s that on that.  No one behind the counter wants to make sure you are actually the card holder.

I believe if the person behind the counter had asked for ID, the bastard could have been caught.

I found this snipet on www.truecrimereport.com:

The attacker focused on her head, breaking nearly every bone in her face. Because of this, the crime sounds like it could have been personal — at least it sounds that way to me. The police seem to be working a theory of a robbery gone terribly wrong, but there has been speculation in the political blogosphere that the attack was somehow related to Pressly’s brief role in Oliver Stone’s W as an Ann Coulter-like pundit. Anything is possible, but I find that idea ridiculous, at the moment.

I am not an expert in anything but my own thoughts and I thought the same thing when I first read of her appearing in W and making an pro-Bush statement (I hope I have my information correct).  The person just could not differentiate between fantasy and reality and thus took her statement literally.  I don’t know…this is just a guess.

I just so hope they catch him and catch him soon.

 

I learned of puppy mills from the Oprah Winfrey show when her dog Sophie had passed away. The producers of the show did a tribute for Sophie and that show entailed Lisa Ling doing an undercover investigation into puppy mills. I could not believe what I was seeing. I do not want to go into details because I will just get fired up and such. I suggest you do research on your own and a gurantee you will not believe it yourself.

But on to the good news. A Tennesse puppy mill has been shut down and the dogs have been rescued.

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30 June 2008

The Humane Society of the United States transported approximately 100 dogs Monday afternoon who were rescued from a Tennessee puppy mill to its Gaithersburg, Md., office.

 The puppy mill housed more than 700 animals, making it the largest mill busted in Tenn. history.

“This case is especially important because its effects will reach far beyond the 682 dogs who we removed from the puppy mill in Tennessee,” said Wayne Pacelle, president and CEO of The HSUS.

“By increasing public awareness of the horrors of puppy mills, this case will help countless dogs across the country.”

How They Were Rescued

The rescue was set into motion by The Humane Society of the United States’ Tennessee state director, who received undercover tips and worked with investigators at the District Attorney’s office for the 21st Judicial District to build a case against the puppy mill operator.

General Kim Helper, District Attorney for the 21st Judicial District of Tennessee has traveled to Gaithersburg to take part in the press conference being held at The HSUS office.

Shortly after local authorities executed a search warrant at Pine Bluff Kennels the property owner surrendered the animals to the district attorney’s office.

In turn, custody was transferred to The HSUS—nearly 700 dogs, 25 horses and donkeys, 20 cats, 4 parrots, and 15 chickens.

No Way to Live

The HSUS has worked with more than 50 individuals from humane organizations across the country for two days to safely remove all dogs from the facility to an emergency shelter operated by The HSUS.

The dogs were living in cramped rabbit hutches amid piles of their own feces.

Many had significant health problems ranging from painful open wounds to matted hair so extreme the animals were unable to walk.

“After rescuing these dogs from their previous lives of neglect and abuse, I am deeply touched to now see them begin their journey towards finding loving, forever homes,” said Scotlund Haisley, HSUS senior director of Emergency Services.

“Although they had been housed in deplorable conditions, the dogs still crave human love and attention.

These calm, sweet animals possess a remarkably resilient spirit and deserve to become cherished family pets.”

The Journey Home

After taking in such a large number of animals, The HSUS reached out to partner shelters across the country asking for assistance in placing the animals.

All 682 dogs have now been placed with humane organizations and will soon be evaluated and put up for adoption.

The Washington Humane Society and Washington Animal Rescue League took approximately 100 of the dogs rescued in Tennessee.

The journey marked a happy new beginning for the neglected dogs.  (www.hsus.org)

I usually like to write compositions that compare / contrast or are reviews of something such as shows, books, movies and the likes.  But something has been stirring in me quite a bit, and it wasn’t until a few minutes ago, that the urge has decided to be released.

There are a few traits in people I do not like.  Stupidity, Laziness, Liars, and two-faced people.

It has come to my attention of a someone who had been speaking ill of another for sometime…almost any chance this person got, the words of harm would appear.  But at the same time, when it seems no one is looking this SAME person will praise the one that this person had been speaking ill words of.

I, myself, if I do not care for you, I just do not care for you.  There’s no middle of the road with me and I will not in the same breath I have used to speak ill of you, praise you.  I will not recognize you in front of others, nothing.

The rumors of this person doing this had been going rampant for some time now, but I was choosing to ignore it, until evidence was presented to me.

I realize this is something that goes on all time, but it’s a different thing when someone brings it to your attention.